Estrangement, by any other name, is still loss. It can mean total loss of a relationship for the rest of someone’s natural life, or it can simply be the shutting down of a heart connection that you once had (or at least thought you had) with someone. It always means…

Google’s definition of estrangement is “the fact of no longer being on friendly terms or part of a social group.” It is losing all your friends in 6th grade because you teased someone or told a lie or wore the wrong color sneakers. …

Tonight, I am once again drowning in the swampland of estrangement. This is where you go when you need to grieve alone the loss of relationships that you desperately wanted to flourish at this point in your life. I have not written publicly about this heart-piercing, soul-crushing, energy-sapping, hell-dwelling place…

I started to study brain science and neurology a few years ago and that interest has led me to some very interesting places. As I began to understand how the brain works with the nervous system, I realized that so much of what we do in a given situation has…

I have heard the word “pattern” used a lot lately, as in, seeing a pattern of behavior in someone. Usually, this is pointed out as a bad thing like, that person has a pattern of manipulation or a pattern of anger. When it is directed at you by someone else…

I have learned that the best kind of friend is the one who not only can weep with you when you weep, but can also genuinely rejoice when you rejoice, just because they value you. I have also learned that I am happiest when I have the opportunity to be that kind of friend to someone else. When we are not able to weep with or rejoice with someone, it is often because we are too invested in our own story to see anyone else’s…

WHO ARE YOU? As someone who has struggled with life long, what is now often called “cPTSD”, I have often had to ask that question of myself. Because early life experiences are meant to communicate or program that information in an infant, when something goes wrong in the downloading process…

I was talking with someone earlier today about the articles I have been writing on Narcissus and Echo. You can find them earlier in my feed or through the link below. Just to recap briefly, the story of Narcissus and Echo has both Greek and Roman origins and is a…

One of the most frustrating things about complex post-traumatic stress disorder (cPTSD) is that it is wired into every neurological tributary in your body. In contrast, episodic trauma will affect parts of your brain that were involved in the episode and can cause PTSD because the memory of a traumatic…